Nuclear Family or Joint Family? - Part 2

With parents in the vicinity, couples could no longer chase one another happily, like how hero and heroine do in movies, running all around the home since they may bump into elders at one place or other.  It is really sad that the young couple has to postpone their fantasies until the senior citizens go on a pilgrimage for a week or two.  Of course, elders, who have come past all this, have always wanted to give enough space for their kids but still with elders around, the romantic life is not that colorful.
Watching a movie in a multiplex and eating outside while coming back home has become a norm of the weekend.  But for elders, it is a sin.  We, wedding planners in Bangalore, are aware of how elders perceive today’s lifestyle.
How could one spend 3000 rupees just for a movie and a dinner?  They would start recalling good old days where they would manage the entire monthly expenses of the family with the same 3000 rupees.  It is not easy to convince them that times have changed and lifestyle has changed and life is not just about surviving but also about indulging in petty pleasures and entertainment, at whatever cost it comes, has become the inseparable part of the family life.
Above all comes the tiffs between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law.
Mothers-in-law, with all their experience, who has seen ups and downs, comes with loads of advice to the daughters-in-law on how to run the family.
Whereas, the well-educated young woman thinks she does not need any advice at all.  Especially from their mothers-in-law.  Of course, being a seasoned wedding planners in Calicut and Cochin, no wonder we could read the minds of today’s young women.
While we often hear stories about quarrels between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law, rarely do we come across any such spats between fathers-in-law and sons-in-law.  Maybe, since it’s too serious to brush off and may shake the very foundation of the family, the men consciously avoid it.
Whereas, one of our friends claims that, woman, possessed with a strong survival instinct that every other woman could be a competitor, always strive to outdo the other women in the vicinity in one way or other.  With men in the family always doing the job of alleviating the adverse effects of any such spats between women, the ladies enjoy the luxury of embroiling in spicy arguments with their rivals.  We, wedding planners in Bangalore, believe that the primitive instinct of survival is still alive in both men and women.
Taking care of elders have become a burden.  Privacy of couples is at stake.  People belong to different generations living in a home lead to the difference of opinions and nurture uneasiness and hatred which ends up in petty arguments.
Are there any merits in a joint family?
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Nuclear Family or Joint Family? - Part 1

Nuclear Family or Joint Family? - Part 3


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